B6 - Truthfulness
This week, we're focusing on TRUTHFULNESS!
TRUTHFULNESS is speaking only what is honest and factual. The opposite of TRUTHFULNESS is LYING, hiding the truth by my words or actions.
Telling the truth can be hard, especially when we're afraid of what might happen as a result.
It's not unusual for a child to want to lie when they're confronted about something they've done wrong. How can we help them choose to tell the truth when it's hard?
- Be a safe person. If your child is afraid of you or your reaction, they're less likely to tell you the truth. Approach situations as a calm conversation rather than a harsh confrontation.
- Seek to understand. We all make choices for a reason. If you can understand why your child made a poor choice, you'll be more successful at helping them change.
- Lead them in self-discovery. Don't simply issue punishment. Lead your child in a discussion with good questions like:
- "What did you want when you made that choice?"
- "Did you get what you wanted?"
- "How did your choice affect other people?"
- "What would you do differently next time?"
- "What consequence do you think is appropriate right now?"
- Focus on the relationship. Tell your child, "I want you to obey. But more than that, I want you to WANT to obey." Remind them, "I want more than your obedience. I want your heart."
- Reward good choices. What gets rewarded, gets repeated. When your child tells the truth in a hard situation, praise them. "Thank you for telling me the truth. That must have been hard. I'm very proud of you."
What ideas would you share about truthfulness? Tell us in the comments.